Better To Be Loved
By: Danny Wallace
I have often said that it is far better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not. As powerful and liberating as this may sound, it is far from true. Even the illusion of love is better than the reality of hatred.
Why do you think humans find themselves doing the most ridiculous things, or entering the most futile of relationships for even an illusion of love? It is because the mentally satisfying quote of Andre Gide is just that – “mentally satisfying.” There is no value in hatred. Likewise, though love from some may often be nothing more than an illusion, hatred is always a reality.
Hatred does not satisfy the longing of our soul. It does not say, “I hear you, I see you, you matter to me,” even if everything in that statement is nothing more than the vapor of a temporary truth.
Therefore, I take back every time I have quoted Andre Gide, as gifted a writer as the late French author may have been. It is not better to be hated for what you are than it is to be loved for what you are not. Whether real, or sheer illusion, it is always better to be loved.